My Big Fat Greek ... Partner?
This past Tuesday, I met up with The Greek for dinner. My kind gesture of sending him a New Year greeting made come around and see that I wasn't a bad guy.
I showed up to the restaurant on time, because I know he would have been pissed if I were late. I told him I would meet him there around 7pm. I try not to speak in absolutes in case something goes wrong. When I arrived he was pacing while waiting for me, but he could have just gotten out of his car. We said hello to each other but there seemed to be a lot of tension. We walked into the upscale but reasonable priced sports bar and took our seat at a booth (they tried to seat us at a table but I was having none of that).
The conversation started off easily with basic pleasantries: how have I been?; how's work going? what have you been up to?. So after all that good stuff, we got down to what we really wanted to talk about ... what happened exactly happened on December 17, 2005.
He said the reason that he didn't return any of my messages is because the was furious with me after standing him up. I told him that I explained exactly what happened in numerous unreturned e-mails and phone calls. He told me that got them all but didn't listen to messages on his answering machine or read the emails because he was upset. We were just friends at that point so why was he so upset?
It's because he thought differently, and it is because the day prior I told him about my relation with Michael. So that coupled with me showing up late set him off. He still doesn't believe that I showed up to the theater that day or looked for his car ... but I did. So I asked why didn't he just tell me about this two weeks ago, he responded that he couldn't because he was too upset (I'm sensing a theme). Which, for me, is an unacceptable excuse. I told him of my frustrations with people who refuse to talk when you are tying to make every effort. I also told him that I would rather have some tell me that they didn't want to be around me, rather than having try to figure what was their problem with me.
He finally told me that he didn't hate me. In fact, he really liked me which is why he was very upset when I [allegedly] stood him up. He mentioned that he told me that he had a luncheon that noon which is why he didn't get my phone message, and that he told me about it when he dinner. I didn't recall this fact. I question him about this and he said that he was sure that he told me. I didn't recall any conversation (jumping ahead: I found an email with this information and it indeed said he had plans at noon. I have since apologized). So we cleared the air about everything and agreed to start from scratch.
We ate while conversing, and began asking me questions. I am usually the person who does the least talking, and he has said on numerous occasions that I don't talk much. And it is true because I am more of a listener. I have always him that if he wants to know something about me, all he had to do is ask. He seemed happy with all the personal information I gave him that evening, as did I. Some, if told to others, would cause a scandal. So I will refrain from divulging the detail of this conversation.
During the course of dinner he said that the next relationship have to last 3-5 years, minimum. Even thought I like this guy, I find the idea of a long-term relationship scary. Within the past year people I know three people who ended long-term relationships that lasted between 5 and 10 years. This is something that I would like to have (a long-term relationship) but I don't know if I could do it. I enjoy my alone time.
Okay, let's say if I got serious with The Greek.
The pluses: he's a nice guy who (for some reason) finds me attractive; he is a doctor; I actually like hanging around him.
The minuses: he is not a US citizen so he will have to go back to Greece in 3 years (unless he moves to Canada) to serve in the Greek Army; wants to have a child (not that children are bad, I am just not sure yet); seems to be easily hurt; thinks too far ahead; likes to wear cologne (I hate the smell of cologne and perfume).
I have been thinking about the differences between The Greek and Michael, and I have these weird issues with both of them. I couldn't shake my feelings for Michael even though he ended this and is no longer interest in me (in that way); where as The Greek is VERY interested in me but I am afraid of having the relationship that he wants. I have been thinking about this about for a couple of days now ... and I am thinking of pursuing a relationship with The Greek. I am not saying I will be committing myself to him for the next 3 years but we could start off slow and discussion a more serious relationship after a while. I can't think of a good reason I shouldn't.
What do y'all think? Input would be helpful ... leave a comment.
I showed up to the restaurant on time, because I know he would have been pissed if I were late. I told him I would meet him there around 7pm. I try not to speak in absolutes in case something goes wrong. When I arrived he was pacing while waiting for me, but he could have just gotten out of his car. We said hello to each other but there seemed to be a lot of tension. We walked into the upscale but reasonable priced sports bar and took our seat at a booth (they tried to seat us at a table but I was having none of that).
The conversation started off easily with basic pleasantries: how have I been?; how's work going? what have you been up to?. So after all that good stuff, we got down to what we really wanted to talk about ... what happened exactly happened on December 17, 2005.
He said the reason that he didn't return any of my messages is because the was furious with me after standing him up. I told him that I explained exactly what happened in numerous unreturned e-mails and phone calls. He told me that got them all but didn't listen to messages on his answering machine or read the emails because he was upset. We were just friends at that point so why was he so upset?
It's because he thought differently, and it is because the day prior I told him about my relation with Michael. So that coupled with me showing up late set him off. He still doesn't believe that I showed up to the theater that day or looked for his car ... but I did. So I asked why didn't he just tell me about this two weeks ago, he responded that he couldn't because he was too upset (I'm sensing a theme). Which, for me, is an unacceptable excuse. I told him of my frustrations with people who refuse to talk when you are tying to make every effort. I also told him that I would rather have some tell me that they didn't want to be around me, rather than having try to figure what was their problem with me.
He finally told me that he didn't hate me. In fact, he really liked me which is why he was very upset when I [allegedly] stood him up. He mentioned that he told me that he had a luncheon that noon which is why he didn't get my phone message, and that he told me about it when he dinner. I didn't recall this fact. I question him about this and he said that he was sure that he told me. I didn't recall any conversation (jumping ahead: I found an email with this information and it indeed said he had plans at noon. I have since apologized). So we cleared the air about everything and agreed to start from scratch.
We ate while conversing, and began asking me questions. I am usually the person who does the least talking, and he has said on numerous occasions that I don't talk much. And it is true because I am more of a listener. I have always him that if he wants to know something about me, all he had to do is ask. He seemed happy with all the personal information I gave him that evening, as did I. Some, if told to others, would cause a scandal. So I will refrain from divulging the detail of this conversation.
During the course of dinner he said that the next relationship have to last 3-5 years, minimum. Even thought I like this guy, I find the idea of a long-term relationship scary. Within the past year people I know three people who ended long-term relationships that lasted between 5 and 10 years. This is something that I would like to have (a long-term relationship) but I don't know if I could do it. I enjoy my alone time.
Okay, let's say if I got serious with The Greek.
The pluses: he's a nice guy who (for some reason) finds me attractive; he is a doctor; I actually like hanging around him.
The minuses: he is not a US citizen so he will have to go back to Greece in 3 years (unless he moves to Canada) to serve in the Greek Army; wants to have a child (not that children are bad, I am just not sure yet); seems to be easily hurt; thinks too far ahead; likes to wear cologne (I hate the smell of cologne and perfume).
I have been thinking about the differences between The Greek and Michael, and I have these weird issues with both of them. I couldn't shake my feelings for Michael even though he ended this and is no longer interest in me (in that way); where as The Greek is VERY interested in me but I am afraid of having the relationship that he wants. I have been thinking about this about for a couple of days now ... and I am thinking of pursuing a relationship with The Greek. I am not saying I will be committing myself to him for the next 3 years but we could start off slow and discussion a more serious relationship after a while. I can't think of a good reason I shouldn't.
What do y'all think? Input would be helpful ... leave a comment.
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1 Comments:
If he’s a good person, I think you should pursue something with him. I recommend telling him that you want to take things slow and make sure he really understands that. The key is communication. You’re an honest person, so I don’t think you’ll have any problems with that. Sometimes it pays off to take a chance. Who knows--It may turn out to be a good thing. Good luck and let us know how things are going from time to time.
By Marius, at 11:52 PM
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